Lord, I don’t have any words tonight. I’ve prayed them all. You love SIL. May Your will concerning her be done.
Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2
Jesus, I ask that You call SIL to You, that You remind her to renew her mind so that she will no longer conform to this world. Teach her how to test her thoughts and actions against the Bible so that she will be able to discern what Your will is. Open her eyes to what is good and acceptable and perfect to You, and give her the strength to choose You over herself or the world.
Lord, I pray for SIL tonight. Minister to her while she sleeps. Stroke her tightly clenched fist so she can relax and let go to You the things she is grasping so tightly. Fill her dreams with your love so that she seeks it from You and not from wrong places. Fill the need in her to be loved so she is free to love others without demanding, expecting, or needing to be loved in return. Heal the pain in her heart, the scars from the past, and the fears for tomorrow. Lord, I pray that she casts her cares on to You – not so that she can live in denial but that she can live in the security of Your love.
Casting all your anxieties on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 6:7
Dear Lord, gentle and meek, I pray that the way You lived while on earth, SIL will live now. Address the pride in her that defends and protects her ego from perceived threats. I pray that she will open her heart to You when You knock.
Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him and he with me. Revelation 3:20
So that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. Then you, being rooted and grounded in love may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ. Ephesians 3:17-18
Lord Jesus, I pray that You dwell in SIL’s heart through faith. That she is rooted and grounded in Your perfect love, and not the imperfect love of the world which shaped her love for herself and others. I pray that she may have power, together with all Your holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep Your love for her is.
Lord, fill SIL with Your grace. As she looks at herself, may You speak reassuring words to her, that You love her more than she hates herself. Show her that her worth is in You. Heal her wounded heart.
“In him we live and move and have our being” Acts 17:28a
Reveal to SIL that her being – who she is – is found in You. And that she is so valuable that You died for her. That her worth is in what You did. Help her to ungrasp her hold on a fragile self-concept so she can grasp the reality that she is who You say she is. Open her eyes and encourage her to live and move in the truth of your Word.
Lord, God of Truth, SIL was not disturbed when questioned about taking something that wasn’t hers. She said she didn’t feel bad or even think it was wrong to do so. Was she being honest with me? Does she really believe taking something not her own, however small it was, was okay?
A man of crooked heart does not discover good, and one with a dishonest tongue falls into calamity. Proverbs 17:20
Lord Jesus, is this a factor in the problems SIL is having? If so, convict her heart. Reveal to her the things she needs to repent from. I know she feels bad about herself deep inside. Let this motivate her to seek You, to yield to You, to repent and ask forgiveness from You. Create in her a clean heart, like You did in me.
Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10
Of course I wanted to add a waterfall to my pond. Why wouldn’t I? The sound of falling water was so peaceful. So I looked at photos and videos, learned some dos and don’ts. And then chose the waterfall I wanted to recreate. It was simple. Large, flat rocks stacked three high. Various size rocks along its side. ‘I can do that,’ I thought.
I dug out and lined the area, got my largest flat rocks, and began building. It worked! The water ran delightfully across the rocks and into the pond. The fake flowers I put among the rocks (until I could plant real one) added color. It was beautiful! There was just one problem. The waterfall looked out of place. It was too big for the pond. I could leave it. I should have left it, but I decided I would end up regretting not changing it while I had a chance. So I dismantled the whole thing except for the lining.
I placed a couple of flat stones, added a few rounder ones in different sizes, and turned on the water. The finished product was beautiful, but the water wouldn’t flow correctly. It kept going under the rocks instead of over them. So I got some pond spray foam and sealed off the bottoms of the rocks. Now the water flowed over them, but the foam in inexperienced hands was obvious. I could keep it but knew my eyes would always be drawn to the ugly foam that showed no matter how much I tried to cover it. I’d have to start over.
No foam, only one level, Surely this would work. And it did. The water flowed nicely, rippling over stones and pebbles in several streams. I absolutely loved it. That’s why it was completely disappointing when folded parts of the lining showed. Sunlight would eventually cause the lining to crack. I tried to cover them but no matter how I tried, the force of the water pushed the stones off the folds in the lining – the same folds that created the wonderful rippling. I could keep it but knew sooner or later I would only have to replace it. It would be better to do so now than a year from now when the plant life became established.
So I started over. Again. I removed everything, including the lining. I dug out the area a lot deeper before putting the liner back on it, kept the waterfall one level, and covered every part of the lining with rocks and stones and a few branches. A few harder- to-cover places were left for plants to cover. It didn’t have the nice, bubbling streams as the last waterfall, but it was nice enough. The water flowed quietly in several directions before splashing into the pond. There were plenty of places to add plants, including a couple of deeper pools. But there was one problem. I had gotten carried away and now it was too big for my pond. It looked huge. It was even bigger than my first waterfall.
I decided that I was NOT going to start over. It is what it is. Too bad I didn’t have this attitude with my first waterfall. It would have saved me days of toil.
But now, O LORD, you are our Father; we are the clay, and you are out potter; we are all the work of your hand. Isaiah 64:8
The work I put into this waterfall reminds me of the work God puts into me. He has a plan and builds circumstances to shape me into His vision. It doesn’t always work out. Maybe I don’t cooperate. Maybe I ignore His guidance because it doesn’t line up with my own ideas. Or maybe I complain, or worse, flat out reject it because I don’t like it. Then He has to slap be back onto the spinning wheel and start over.
I eventually gave up on the waterfall. But God will never give up on me.
And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ. Philippians 1:6
My only job is to cooperate with Him. He knows what He is doing. Do I trust Him enough to allow Him to do what He needs to do?
Working together with him, then, we appeal to you not to receive the grace of God in vain. 2 Corinthians 6:1
The Israelites often complained. Complaining showed lack of faith or belief. They were saying they didn’t think God was doing the best for them. He didn’t care. Or He wasn’t in control. They were receiving God’s grace in vain.
Are we any different?
We are concerned that we look perfect, fit in perfectly with our surroundings, and hide everything we don’t want exposed to the world. When God has other ideas, when He separates us from others, when He reveals sensitive areas that need attention, when he removes or adds people and things in our lives – do we accept it because we trust our good Father – or do we complain and refuse to cooperate?
Let’s cooperate. That way we won’t have to keep starting over and it will save all of us a lot of work.
Jesus, I know You are working in SIL because Your Word promises that You are. But sometimes I just don’t see it. There’s something in her that pushes me away. I pray against whatever that is. Open SIL’s eyes and heart to see truth. To acknowledge and accept truth. You love her, Lord. You know everything about her. Bring into the open the things that are trying to stay hidden so they can be dealt with. Bring her into good health – good honest health – so she can enjoy life.
Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul. 3 John 1:2
I pray that all may go well with SIL and that she may be in good health as it goes well with her soul.
Lord Jesus, Master of our lives, I pray that SIL allows You to be master of her life. Continue to work in her. Heal her of the things in her past that are hidden. Bring them to light so that they no longer fester in the dark, so that they no longer lurk in the shadows causing behavior and thoughts she can’t control or doesn’t understand. Show her that her heart cannot be trusted, that only You can be trusted. Turn her thoughts to You throughout the day and into the night. I pray that she increasingly craves Your Word and that nothing will satisfy her over Your Word. Give her peace in the areas she needs it so she will be able to take hard steps with You.
making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding, yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding… then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God… so you will walk in the way of the good and keep to the paths of the righteous Provers 2:2, 3, 5, 20
Lord, may SIL make her ear attentive to Your wisdom, and incline her heart to understanding. May she call out for insight regarding her behavior and raise her voice for understanding. May she discover the that fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and find knowledge of You so that she will be able to walk in the way of the good and keep to the paths of righteousness.
Jesus, I don’t know what is happening. SIL has acted more arrogant lately. Is it a defense, a cover-up to the changes You are doing in her? I pray that as You remove things, that Your Spirit fills those areas so nothing evil can enter them. I pray that she doesn’t exchange one evil for another.
When an unclean spirit goes out of a person, it passes through waterless places seeking rest, but finds none. Then it says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when it comes, it finds the house empty, swept, and put in order. Then it goes and brings with it seven other spirits more evil than itself, and they enter and dwell there, and the last state of that person is worse than the first. Matthew 12:43-45
Lord, protect SIL from any and all unclean spirits trying to enter her. Free her from any that are already there and fill her with Your Spirit.
Jesus, King of hope, I pray that You fill SIL with the hope she needs to see what she needs to see. I pray that as she opens her eyes, she is not filled with despair but with Your love, grace, and mercy.
And everyone who thus hopes in him purifies himself as he is pure. 1 John 3:3
Jesus, as SIL puts her hope in You, may she purify herself as You are pure.
Now may our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God our Father, who loved us and gave us eternal comfort and good hope through grace, comfort your hearts and establish them in every good work and word. 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
Jesus, may You Yourself, and God our Father, who loves SIL and gave her eternal comfort and good hope though grace, comfort her heart and establish it in every good work and word.